It goes without saying that most of you would pick a romantic movie to watch for a date. While some may choose an action or even a horror movie (both provide you escapist entertainment without being cheesy that romantic movies can be sometimes). But is there a type of films that you should completely avoid? Are there types of films that are strictly no-no?
In my opinion, there are two kind of movies you strictly should avoid: 1. something very graphically violent or sexual and 2. dramas that show downfall or pitfalls of a relationship. With that in mind let’s jump right into 10 such films that fall into one of these categories and that you should never ever watch on a date.
10. Antichrist (2009)
A grieving couple retreat to their cabin in the woods, hoping to repair their broken hearts and troubled marriage. But nature takes its course and things go from bad to worse. A genius like Lars von Trier — who I’m a big fan of — is no stranger to making deeply disturbing films. This is one! And even though it is a great film if you watch it alone, I would never advise you to watch it with you date.
Why you should avoid it: Weird, graphically sexual and is about crumbling relationship.
9. Salò, or the 120 Days of Sodom (1975)
It chronicles the story of the sickening pleasures of the lords and how they exploit 18 young men and women in devious manners. The tale is narrated in an unflinching manner, making it highly intense. The brutal murders, rape for fun and sadism make it one of the most difficult films to watch. It is gory and hurts the viewer almost physically every time it is watched. Some of the scenes are so disturbing that it becomes a nightmare. The torture is unapologetic but poetic justice is served in the end.
Why you should avoid it: Violent and disturbing
8. Oldboy (2003)
This 2004 classic has everything thrown in: brutal gut wrenching violence and gore, protagonist at unease, a shady antagonist, and incest. Watching this movie for the first time will certainly blow your minds, and you’d probably feel disgusted for sometime. I did. But its cult status can’t be denied. It is horrifying, yet mesmerizing, and inspire two remakes.
Why you should avoid it: Extremely violent and deals in incest
7. Dogtooth (2009)
‘Dogtooth’ challenges the conventional wisdom of filmmaking by making all its characters unlikeable — detestable, even. But there also lies the reason why ‘Dogtooth’ works so well; because it isn’t afraid to go to uncomfortable places to reveal the dark aspect of human psychology. As disturbing and startling ‘Dogtooth’ is, it also funny in a sad kind of way. Ultimately, it is as raw as modern filmmaking can get.
Why you should avoid it: It has themes of sadism and incest.
6. Blue Valentine (2010)
Starring Ryan Gosling and Michelle Williams, ‘Blue Valentine’ is a story about a couple, who the world sees as a perfect relationship, but are actually in a downward spiral caught up between lack of ambition and retreat into self-ambition, hence slowly resulting into a failed marriage. One of the best movies about marriage, ‘Blue Valentine’ is so honest in its rendering that it is not easy to sit through the film. But if you do, you will realize what a truly exceptional film this is.
Why you should avoid it: It is about a failed relationship
5. The Piano Teacher (2001)
A deeply disturbing examination — what else can you expect out of Michael Haneke — of desire and desperation in love, ‘The Piano Teacher’ may leave you shaken by the time it ends. Not an easy watch by any means, the film will be richly rewarding to only those who patiently and thoughtfully strive to absorb its subtle nuances — after having gotten through the initial shock. In the end, and if you look closely, Haneke’s message with this film is: Love has many shades, and not all of them are beautiful.
Why you should avoid it: The film deals with sadomasochism.
4. Irreversible (2002)
Events over the course of one traumatic night in Paris unfold in reverse-chronological order as the beautiful Alex is brutally raped and beaten by a stranger in the underpass. Her boyfriend and ex-lover take matters into their own hands by hiring two criminals to help them find the rapist so that they can exact revenge. I know it is a very disturbing film, but at the same time I think it has a clear message in it. A simultaneously beautiful and terrible examination of the destructive nature of cause and effect it is a film that shows how cruel time can be.
Why you should avoid it: Extremely violent and features a 10-minute rape scene
3. Gone Girl (2014)
Adapted from the novel of the same name, Gone Girl punches above the weight of what’s on paper. With some starkly memorable visuals, haunting score, and a perfect casting, Fincher manages to create something that will linger in your memory long after the credits have rolled. On the face of it ‘Gone Girl’ appears to be a tale of secrets, but actually it’s a tale of trust: How much trust do you have in marriage, and more importantly, how much do you know your partner.
Why you should avoid it: Shows the dark side of love and relationship.
2. Shame (2011)
On the face of it, ‘Shame’ is about sex-addiction; but it could so easily have been about any other addiction. How often we try to masquerade our inner fears and weaknesses under the veil of addiction ? Shame deals with that. It also disentangles an aspect of human behavior like no other film this century has managed to do. World came to know about McQueen from Oscar winning ’12 Years A Slave’. But watch ‘Shame’ and you will realize why McQueen is such a great talent. The way he lets camera linger around as if it is a silent, invisible person — and not just an image capturing tool — is pure genius.
Why you should avoid it: It is about a man’s sexual addiction. Graphically sexual.
1. Amour (2012)
‘Amour’, a french word, means love. And no film this century depicted the pain and the suffering that comes along with love in such a poignantly touching way than ‘Amour’. It is a story than can be difficult to sit through, but the payoff — if you want to call the emotionally devastating climax that — is huge. You will be left thinking about the movie for days, even weeks. Such is the impact of Michael Haneke’s ‘Amour’.
Why you should avoid it: Disturbing to see love in its most vulnerable and heart-breaking form