Writing this will get a reaction, likely not the kind I am hoping for because as a man writing it, there will be those who say I cannot ever experience what women can. That is true, I concede that, but as a husband, son, brother, boyfriend, uncle, brother-in-law, friend, and most of all, father, women have been forever in my life and I both love and respect them. At various time I have been a fierce protector of the women I love, fearless to stand in the way of anyone and anything that might bring them harm.
Women are better than men in many aspects and we are better men for having them in our lives. I have often said my late wife taught me to be a better man, and I mean that. I wanted so much to be worthy of her love.
Women amaze me, fascinate me, and I do love them.
However, as a college dean I have also seen women, a very slim number of the population, at their very worst. With a mere false accusation they can ruin a career, a marriage, a life…just like that. And even if they later confess that they lied, the damage is irreparable and cannot be undone.
When a women cries rape, 99% of the time they are telling the truth, and have indeed been a victim of a terrible assault from which there is no coming back. Their dreams will be haunted by the event, their personality may change, we as men can never entirely understand what it is they go through, what nightmares they will be forced to endure. My heart goes out to them.
However what of the men falsely accused? What of a rumor or allegation that remains unfounded? For the most part the man is deemed guilty, and his life left in tatters. Even if the President of the United States (any President except Trump) went on national TV with a statement absolving the accused of the accusations, it would not matter. In cases like this, it is guilt by accusation.